Hi all,
I’ve been absent from blogging for a couple of months (both posting and interacting with others). Just thought I’d say why.
In late January, my father was diagnosed with a rare and incurable brain illness. In the space of three weeks he went from diagnosis to having passed away in hospital. I pretty much lost all interest in anything that usually brought me any kind of joy and stopped doing almost everything other than laying in bed listening to podcasts and being miserable.
The diagnosis, the passing, and the funeral felt like three individual deaths and, due to the time frame between each, I think that’s why I have struggled to get any enthusiasm for my hobbies.
I’ve recently started getting back into books (physical and audio), so am hoping to be back on a little bit more regularly.
Hope you’ve all been well,
Aaron
Goes without saying that you should take as much time as needed Aaron. The passing of my father took a little longer, but I can relate to the fewlings you have gone through.
We are here for you, if there is anyway we can help just let us know.
Condolences once again man.
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Thank you, buddy. I’m by no means over it and, just when I think I’m doing ok, I feel the complete opposite.
Thanks again, much appreciated
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We missed you, man, but take all the time you need. Then maybe some more. The world will still be here when you’re ready. I know it can be hard, especially when it happens so quickly and you don’t have time to process it. I can’t imagine going through something like that.
Hugs, Aaron. And like Dawie said let any of us know if you need anything.
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Thank you, Will. That’s lovely to hear. I think I’d have been able to cope better if it was heart-related, as he suffered a heart attack 18 years back so, in my head, it would have made sense. But for something so rare and rapid, it just felt different
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So sorry to hear about your father. All the best to you!
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Thank you ♥️
Hope you’re well
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I’m so sorry for your loss of your dad Aaron. I lost my dad in 2005. I wish I could tell you it gets easier but it doesn’t. It just gets a little less painful. Hang in there and maybe get lost in A really good book.🙏
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Thank you ♥️
In a way, it not getting easier is a good thing. I was very close to him so, if it just started feeling ok then I feel there’d be something wrong with the way I think. The more it hurts, the more he meant to me is the way I see it.
I’ll certainly try to lose myself between the pages
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Just take it one hour or one day at a time. Its all you can do.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. ❤️
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Thank you ♥️
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My sincere condolences, Aaron, it’s so sad to hear about such a tragedy. It dwarves all the silly, abstract things we read about and discuss on our blogs, and is just something so unfair, and random.
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It was the utter randomness and rarity of the disease. It’s literally a ‘less than 1% of the population’ kind of thing. It’s that that makes it feel so much harder to come to terms with
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I am so sorry Aaron. I’m sure you know with your head, but part of the grieving and healing process is that feeling you describe. So feel bad when you need to feel bad but don’t wallow in it.
And when you’re ready to interact with people again, we’ll be here.
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Thank you 🙂
Oh, absolutely. I’m trying to get a bit more normality to my life and, if I’m honest, the distractions of every day life help so much. It feels nice to start getting enjoyment from my hobbies again
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Oh, Aaron, I’m so sorry. We’re here for you, if you need us. ❤️
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Thank you ♥️ it’s very much appreciated
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Take as much time as you need Aaron. I understand what you’re going through I lost both my dads within a year of each other. Grieving the loss of a loved one takes time and it’s different for everyone. I’m so sorry for your loss and the pain you must be feeling now if you ever need someone to talk to know I’m here.
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I can’t imagine having to go through such a thing twice in swift succession. My heart goes out to you ♥️
Thank you, it’s very much appreciated. It’s helped simply by not keeping it to myself. I’ve had the wave of friends, family and colleagues come up to offer their condolences and, although each time felt like a new wound, it also helped.
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It was definitely hard. I still get sad thinking about them and it’s been 6/7 years.
I understand. Talking about it helps but also hurts at the same time. Hopefully it will hurt a little less over time.
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I’m very sorry for your loss. The speed with which everything happened certainly added an unbearable weight to what was already a harsh moment in your life, and I hope you will be able to process it all soon. My very best.
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I’m getting there. It’s little things that get me. They always will, I’m fully aware of that.
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So sorry to hear about your dad – what a terrible shock. My condolences and best wishes to you. I hope your hobbies can start to bring you a little joy (or at least distraction) when you’re ready for them.
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Thank you 🙂
It’s been awful and I’m only now starting to get any enjoyment from my hobbies. But they’re helping.
Hope you’re well 🙂
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I’m so sorry for your loss, Aaron. My condolences to you and your fam.
Take your time; we’ll be here when you’re ready to get back into blogging.
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Thank you ♥️ I hope you’ve been keeping well
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